colds:

unsends:

poeticsuggestion:

affectionsuggestions:

Let’s get rid of the idea that someone has to talk to you 24/7 to like you or even love you. I know how it feels to want to talk to someone all day but life takes different turns. Patience.

I have bpd, amanda.

WE CANT ALL BE NEUROTYPICALS LIKE YOU KAREN

i have BPD too and this thought process was my downfall lol. i have been in multiple unhealthy relationships and have been miserable bc of this! OP isnt making a radical statement- this is true! it took me years to realize that someone doesnt need to talk to me 24/7 to like me. in fact, they have their OWN life and are allowed to have other friends and its unhealthy to expect them to dedicate all of their time to me.

i would get so angry when my favorite person wasnt talking to me but now i realize its unfair to both of us to expect them to be able to talk all the time. and yep, this site made it seem like me begging this person to talk to me constantly and get angry at them for having a life is normal and healthy. it isnt! it isnt “neurotypical” to let people have their own lives. its still hard for me! but you can ask for reassurance and remind yourself that its not healthy to expect someone to be able to talk to you 24/7. its hard, i know, but stop saying healthy behaviors are “neurotypical” and stop normalizing unhealthy behaviors that often can turn abusive (yes, getting pissed off at your partner for having a life or talking to people that arent you IS emotionally abusive behavior)