One more time.

There is no way for a human being to be born innately, inherently, ontologically, “a bad person”. There is no mental illness that makes a person innately, inherently, ontologically “bad”. There is no “abuser gene”. There is no “abuser disorder”. Whether or not someone is abusive, manipulative, and cruel, is based entirely on the behaviors they choose to engage in. How they choose to see people and treat people. What thoughts they choose to entertain.

If you immediately “morally diagnose” someone based on their mental illness, that they did not choose to have, you are choosing to engage in a cruel behavior. I don’t care if you believe you’re “empathetic”, you do not have a “good person” gene, or some sort of “good person” condition. Whether someone has high empathy or no empathy, all people are individually responsible for their own behaviors. There is nothing innate about you that absolves you from being responsible for abusive behavior.

Stop demonizing personality disorders, and start actually holding abusers accountable for their choices. End of argument.